Thursday, September 26, 2013

A good how to...


Taken from the wiki! Enjoy!

http://www.wikihow.com/Have-Phone-Sex


Have Phone Sex
Phone sex is a great way to spice up your sex life, whether you're having phone sex with your significant other because he or she is away on a trip, or just because you're in the mood. If you want to be great at phone sex, then you have to let lose, stop being self-conscious, and get ready to get turned on, no matter how silly you may feel at first. If you want to know how to have phone sex, just follow these easy steps.

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Adjust Your Mindset

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    Set up a phone date. This is the first thing you should do before you jump into phone sex. If you’ve never had phone sex before, you don’t have to call lit a “phone sex date” – just make sure you pick a time when both of you are free, and when you know that you’ll both be alone and will be free to let your inhibitions loose. Your plan won’t work if you’ll be rolling around in your bed, feeling hot and heavy, while your man will be chatting with you outside the library.

    • Be cute when you make the “appointment.” You can use your tone and flirt to indicate what you really have in mind for this phone date.
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    Let loose. You need to relax completely before you have phone sex. If you’re not comfortable with the process and think it’s silly or artificial, your man will be able to tell. So, to get loose, lay around in bed, feel comfortable, and even have a glass of wine or two if you want to.Just do anything that will make you comfortable and relaxed!

    • You can dance to a silly song in front of the mirror, or run in place for a minute – do whatever you have to do to shake the tension out of your body and to get it on via phone.
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    Set the mood in your own home. If you want to have phone sex, then you should set up a sexy atmosphere in your bedroom. You won’t be in the mood for sex if your bed is covered in textbooks or if the news is on and your room looks dirty under bright, garish lights. Instead, clean off your bed and space, dim the lights, and play some soft music. You can even consider lighting some candles.

    • Do whatever you would do to prepare your room for real sex. This will help get you in a sexy mindset.
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    Feel sexy. If you want to have phone sex, then you should be able to feel sexy in the process. To feel sexy, make sure you take a nice long shower, shave whatever you need to shave, and put on something that makes you feel hot, whether it’s sexy lingerie or your best polo. You can even caress yourself in the shower to prime your body.

    • To get ready for phone sex, you should look like you’d look before you’d have real sex. You wouldn’t have sex when you’re wearing sweatpants and haven’t showered in two days, would you?
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    Get turned on. You shouldn’t touch yourself before you make your phone call, or it may end too quickly, but you should lie in bed, caress your body gently, and picture what it would be like to have your man or woman next to you. Imagine how great it would feel to have his body next to yours and close your eyes and think of the last time you and your significant other had mind-blowing sex. Once you’re ready, it’s time to make the call.

Start Having Phone Sex

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    Make contact. When you first call your lover, talk in a slightly softer and lower voice than usual. Be a little coy, but still let your lover know how excited you are to hear from him. You can start slow—you don’t have to get into the hot and heavy language right away, or things may be moving too fast.

    • First, ask how your significant other’s day went. Tell him you’re doing great too—don’t go into any details. Don’t get distracted from your sexy goal.
    • Say something casual but clearly hot like, “I wish you were right here next to me” or “I’ve been thinking about you all day.”
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    Talk about what you’re wearing. First, let your significant other know what you’re wearing and how your body looks in it. This works best for girls. If you’re a guy, focus on what your girl is wearing by asking her what her panties look like, what outfit or dress she’s wearing, and how her chest looks in it.

    • If you’re a girl, slowly describe what you’re wearing in a flirtatious tone. Put on a pair of your man’s favorite panties and let him know how they look on you.
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    Talk about how much you want each other. Next, move on to talking about how you wish you were with that person, and how much you miss his body. You can go into detail—talk about your favorite parts of his body, and how much you wish he was right there next to you. Then, talk about what you’d do if you were together—talk about the things you’d do to him, and the things you’d want him to do to you.
    • You can start slow here too. You can start with, “First, I’d stroke your hair,” and work your way up to “Then I’d gently kiss your neck,” and get more explicit if you’re comfortable.
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    Talk about what you’re doing to yourself. Once you’re more comfortable, tell your man what you’re doing to yourself. Tell him, “I’m tracing my thigh with my finger” or “I’m running my hands over my breasts.” It can be as raunchy or as explicit as you want it to be. You can also ask him for advice: “Should I start playing with my underwear?” and of course, he’ll say yes.
    • Tell your significant other what to do. Ask him to start unbuttoning his pants, or ask her to throw her hair back for you.
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    Talk about how turned on you are. Let your significant other know how the phone sex is making you feel. Tell him that he’s driving you crazy, that your whole body is tingling, or just that you’re unbelievably turned on. Say, “I can’t believe I’m this turned on without even being next to you. That’s how amazing you are.”
    • To turn yourselves on even more, you can even talk about a time when you had really great sex. Say, “Remember when you did that thing to me in the shower?” And both of you will be even more excited.

Finish Strong

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    Take off your clothes (optional). If you want to go all out, then you should take off your clothes, or at least some of them. You can let your lover know what it looks like when you unbutton your shirt, slide your pants down, or unhook your bra. If you really want to get turned on, then take off all of your clothes—that’s what you do during normal sex, isn’t it?

    • If it’s your first time having phone sex or you just don’t feel comfortable getting naked all by yourself, then that’s okay too. Just do whatever works for you.
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    Touch yourselves. No phone sex is complete without some mutual masturbation. Let your man or woman know when you’ve lowered your hands into your pants and are starting to play with yourself. If you’re a girl, start touching yourself before your man does—it’ll probably take longer for you to orgasm.
    • Describe the process. Let your phone partner know exactly how you’re making yourself feel, and describe the sensations running through your body.
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    Orgasm. Once you’re ready to come, let your lover know. Ideally, you’ll climax at the same time, but that happens just about as often as it does during real sex. Let him hear your hot and heavy breathing and your moans as you feel true pleasure. And if you orgasm before your lover does, don’t stop being sexy. Continue to tell him how great you feel and how much you want him to come.
    • Once you both orgasm, just listen to your breathing on the phone for a minute. Don’t get off on the phone right away, but take the time to enjoy the after-effects of a great phone sex session.
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    Get off the phone. Once your breathing has returned to normal and you’re ready to go, tell your lover how much fun you had talking to him and that you can’t wait to have phone sex again soon. Don’t talk about your days or fall into the routine of boring conversation—you can do that another time. For now, stay sexy and get off the phone not too long after sex.
    • This will make your lover want you even more, and both of you will be excited at the thought of more phone sex in the near future.

Saturday, September 21, 2013

Interesting points from edu kink....

On the Phone

Choose and treat a pro domme as you would any other professional specialist - doctor, lawyer, or mechanic. They're not your lover, they're someone providing a service using relatively rare skills. Some factors to consider:

Do they offer the specific techniques and style that interests you?

Do you have the right energy/chemistry together?

Pro dommes get lots of crank calls, time wasters, and guys hoping for free phone sex. You need to establish yourself quickly as a genuine likely session client. Be prepared to answer:

How did you find me?

What draws you to BDSM?

What are you looking for in session?

With whom have you had sessions before?

Why do you want a professional session?

These might not all be asked directly, but you should have thought about them beforehand. Be entirely honest, e.g. "I've not really done much, but I've got these fantasies, and I think I'm ready to try them out." Then be prepared to tell the fantasy. This is not a time to by shy or reticent. If she's a good pro domme, she's heard it all before. More importantly, she won't be judgmental. She'll appreciate your efforts at articulating any forbidden fantasies. Likely she'll say "I can give you a session in that area". The worst she'll say would be "That's outside the services I offer right now, but I can refer you to someone who does that type of session."

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